My Journey to Becoming a Coach for Men in Midlife

Over my coaching career I’ve worked with people on leadership and careers, relationships, self-empowerment, and personal growth. It’s my life’s mission to get people clear on where they’re stuck and why, removing obstacles, and developing a concrete plan for moving forward and creating a life they love.

But I haven’t always been so deeply satisfied with my life and definitely not so clear on my purpose. Prior to becoming a full-time professional leadership and life coach, I spent over 20 years in consulting and project management.

By all accounts I was really good at it, climbing successfully and headed in the “right direction” toward the golden days of my career and ultimately to retirement.

I had a beautiful family, a beautiful home, vacations, a growing 401k. Enviable, right?! (Roll the Talking Heads … )

But the reality was that even with all that, something inside was out of alignment and honestly, I wasn’t really that fulfilled.

I often felt totally stressed out, rushed through my days, and left with a sense of not having enough time … time for family, time for healthy choices, time for solid friendships. And while the external successes and good-looking life was real, the reality was that it wasn’t real(ly) me. But I didn’t know it yet.

So at 40, I took stock (I clearly remember the day I was commuting to work and yelling in my car “There’s got to be more than this!!”). I began to look for something that would bring more meaning to my life … and it had something to do with being in service to others.

Coach Training

An immediate career change wasn’t exactly what I wanted, so I looked at leadership and life coaching as a way to do more meaningful work as a compliment to my “day job.” I trained and became certified at one of the oldest and most recognized coaching schools in the world, the Coaches Training Instititue (CTI). I also trained with Coaching for Right Relationship (CRR Global) in Organizational and Relationship Systems Coaching.

And I found over time that my success with clients only increased my desire to do this work as my vocation … doing it as a side job wasn’t going to cut it!
I began to understand that coaching was my life’s calling.

My Niche with Men in Midlife

Where have all the good men gone?

I believe that we’re all “still here,” we’re just not “all there.” We’re often feeling stuck (in careers, relationships, situations) and therefore frustrated and therefore disengaged or isolated (so not “all there”).

I get it when my clients want change, and are just unclear on how to get the change they want. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution to navigating midlife. I’ve been there, walked through the fires, and have arrived on the other side to a place of choice and greater freedom in my life.

The good news is that you don’t have to become a life coach to do it! And while there’s no simple solution or easy path, I can help you get clear on the change you want and how you make it happen.

Midlife isn’t a cake walk, but it doesn’t have to be a walk of shame either.

Some of the biggest challenges for men in midlife are getting good information and getting the support systems in place so we don’t have to go it alone.

My goal for Midlife and Thriving is to provide men a place to get current and relevant information to support whatever midlife transitions they’re going through. It’s also a place to connect and know that you don’t have to do it alone.

So You’ve Heard Enough About Me!

I’d love to hear about you. Drop me a line at the link here or call me at 907.863.8688 to set up a free consultation!